Goal setting can inspire you, motivate you, and also make you feel like a total failure if you don't reach them as soon as you'd like. You're taught to set timely goals…..to have a deadline that you'd like to reach them by. But what if you've been plugging away at something, and it's just not happening? You think you're doing everything you can, but you're goal seems out of reach.
I'm all for putting a little pressure on to make sure you get things accomplished. Otherwise you'd just be sitting around day fantasizing about that mystical "someday"….the day when all your dreams come true. But sometimes we have to relax, let up a bit and let the Universe take over. Or, we have to admit to ourselves that maybe we're chasing after the wrong dream. Ouch. Sucks to hear that I know.
If you haven't got to where you want to be in a certain area, maybe it's time to go back to the beginning and ask yourself if this is something you REALLY want. Have you journaled or meditated about it? Do you know if this is something you have the skills for, or can learn how to do?
Example time….I will never make it as a back up singer/dancer for Madonna. No matter how many hours I spent in my room as a child working on my "moves" and crooning along to Like a Prayer, my vocal and dance skills are pretty much non-existent. I've accepted this (sorry Madge…we could've been a great team…), and I've moved on. I learned to focus on things I'm good at, and that come more naturally to me.
I'm not saying to give up on your dreams and goals-just make sure they're attainable. Lofty and out of your comfort zone is good. It gives you something to strive for, and that'll help you grow. Hooray for growing!
But take the time to revisit the drawing board and re-evaluate your goal. Maybe it no longer resonates with your true self and you've outgrown it. Or maybe it just needs a little tweaking to make it better suited to your strengths. If you're clear on your goal, it's doable for you, and you still want it-fantastic!
Still stressing because it hasn't happened yet? I'm a big fan of this exercise I heard about from Jerry and Esther Hicks….
Sticking with the driving theme, here's another gem from Jerry and Esther that I heard during one of their lectures. (I don't remember the exact details, so I'll make them up, but the credit goes to the Hicks).
Imagine you're planning a road trip from New York to L.A. (goodbye snow-hello sunshine!!). You know exactly where you're going in L.A. Your destination has been plugged into the GPS, you just have to follow the prompts to make sure you're going in the right direction. You get all tingly with excitement because you're going to have so much fun once you get there. You're looking forward to the drive too-it should be fun…maybe meet some new people, and have some cool experiences along the way. Things are going great at first…then the novelty of being on the road starts to wear off. You're getting bored, and you're really wishing you were there already. It feels like you're never going to get to L.A. No sunshine and beaches for you. No celebrity sightings on the TMZ Hollywood tour. You're stuck in a car in Utah, and you've had it! You just want to be in L.A. dammit! So you turn the car around and drive home.
How ridiculous would that be?! But we do it all the time with our goals. You know where you're going, but you get frustrated along the way and give up when things are just about to start happening for you. If you know that your goal is aligned with who you really are, then KEEP GOING! Don't turn back! It's right around the corner even if you can't see it yet.