I don’t know about you, but the word submit doesn’t feel very good to me. It feels weak, inferior, and small. That’s the opposite of how I want to feel ,and how I want to show up in the world. I believe the same source energy that sparked life on this planet is coursing through my veins (and yours!), and that source energy is anything but small, meek, or submissive.
I was doing my morning meditation and was guided…wait..that word’s too gentle..more like bitch slapped into sharing a message about submitting. I’m not talking about a 50 Shades kind of submission, or playing small and meek. I’m talking about submitting to your higher self....to your highest good.
As we go about our day to day life we have to constantly make choices. What to say, what to eat, how to react to situations and people. Sometimes we make kick ass decisions that feel spot on…they leave us feeling light, peaceful, happy, or energized. But then there are those choices we make that make us feel tight, contracted, and frustrated.
Should have had the apple instead of the bag of Cheetos. Should have bitten my tongue instead of snapping back at someone just to win an argument. Should have taken a deep breath before yelling at my neighbour to keep his dog on a leash (in my defence, his little dog likes to hump my big dog’s leg and I’m afraid my dog might eat him…still….I could have handled that better).
Every decision we make is either aligned with our higher self (our highest good), or it’s not. Sometimes we’re just a wee bit off course, sometimes we’re headed in a totally different direction. The point is, we know better. There’s something inside of us that knows what’s best for us, and for those around us. This is what we are called to submit to. And it’s not easy. It often fucking sucks. I don’t always want to eat the right thing. I don’t always want to be nice to assholes. But submitting to my highest good feels better. If I eat too much junk food, I feel like shit afterwards. If I’m in a pissy mood and let it out on others, I feel like shit afterwards. But that’s not my goal. My goal is to feel good as often as possible. Life is waaay more fun, and a helluva lot easier when you feel good, and do the right thing.
I got to wondering how the Universe sees us….scurrying around on this little planet…making life much more difficult than it has to be, and I was given a glimpse of that this morning at the dog park. My darling dog Oliver has what some would call a “strong personality”. He thinks he knows what’s best and he’s not afraid to show his stubborn side if he doesn’t think my plan is aligned with his. Today at the park, I was trying to leash him and take him home. I was cold. I had to pee. I just wanted to go home. He wasn’t up for that. He wanted to keep playing. He’s pretty good usually…he’ll be obedient (he’ll submit) and sit for me when I tell him to. Today however, I could see the internal battle going on his mind. He knows I know what’s best for him. I take care of him….feed him…and the little bugger gets half my bed at night. But yet he resisted doing what I wanted because he thought he knew better. If he could see the big picture, he’d understand that once we got home there’d be a treat, and his favourite bone waiting for him. There’d be plenty of food and cuddles. But he was only focused on what he wanted at that moment. While trying to leash him he stood frozen, yet ready to run away as soon as I got near him…the wheels in his mind just a turnin'…he had a decision to make. He could submit, and sit like a good little dog, or run off and do his own thing….do things his way.
Hmmm…how often do we things “our way”….things that are driven by the ego, instead of doing what we know is best. I wonder what we’re missing out on. Maybe the Universe has it’s own version of treats and cuddles for us if we submit to our highest good even when we don’t feel like it. I’m not talking about appeasing some god in the sky who dishes out good things for those who deserve it. I’m talking about doing things that are going to make us feel better in the long run, even if at the time it feels anything but natural.
If you want to experiment with this, take note of when you choose to do the kind thing, the smart thing, the healthy thing, over what you really feel like doing in the moment. Try making the choice that’s more loving, even if in the moment it’s the last thing you actually feel like doing. Then notice how you feel afterwards…sure you may have wanted to give someone a piece of your mind…to have the last word…but if you know deep inside that it just doesn’t matter, and that it would only cause more conflict, how do you feel knowing you added peace to the situation instead of more anger?
We’re human. We’re going to make shitty choices…it happens. But getting a sense of what’s right and wrong for you (for your highest good) will help steer you in the direction of what feels good. The things that light you up, that make you happy, that make your heart swell with love are the things to focus on…seek them out. Hunt them down. Submit to those things.