"Gimme gimme never gets. Don't you know your manners yet?"
Remember hearing that when you were a kid? When we were young, we were taught to say please and thank you when we asked for things, and when we got them. If we were quick little learners we realized that saying thank you and showing your gratitude for what you received was the proper way to graciously get stuff. I'm assuming you've mastered being nicey-nice in your regular life and you don't need a lesson in basic social etiquette. How about minding your manners when you're talking to the Universe though?
It's so easy to not pay attention to the self-talk going on in your head. Nobody hears it anyway (or so you think), so there's no reason to reign those thoughts in and keep them in-line with what you want. You rant and rave, gripe and complain about how things aren't working…how unfair things are, or how things just plain suck. Uh oh. What happened to gratitude? It is soooo important to feel grateful for what you have if you ever expect to have more of what you want. Why is it such a huge deal?
Here are 2 reasons:
1. If you're feeling ungrateful, other people can sense it and it makes them want to run far, far away from you. When you're wallowing in your dumpy "woe is me" place you're vibrations are at an all time low. It feels yucky to be around people that are sending out low vibes all the time. It's like a stinky energetic repellent that keeps all the awesome things you want at a distance. Don't get me wrong. We all have bad days and by no means am I saying you should be a happy, smiley robot all the time (that would be so creepy!) . Just try to set a limit on your wallowing time. Feel your feelings, acknowledge them, then get your ass moving towards feeling better. You obviously want to attract cool, positive things and people, so make sure you're sending out the right message so you can be a magnet for what you want.
2. The Universe isn't going to give you a damn thing if you're not grateful for what you already have. Why should it? Obviously you're not happy with what you've got so far so why on earth should you get more? Here's an example: Once upon a time, at our family Christmas get together, my mom handed my cousin his present. Being a little kid (7ish maybe?), he was super excited, and as kids tend to do, he ripped open his gift in a mad frenzy. When he saw what it was (colouring books, markers, and artsy stuff) he looked at my mom and said "Is that all?". Bad move kid. Not only did my mom want to take back his gift and give it to someone who might appreciate it, I bet she wasn't too keen on buying him anything else for a while. Now, my cousin was pretty young so his social skills were still growing (he turned out to be a fine young man by the way), but what excuse do we adults have? Sure we might show gratitude towards other people, but what about towards the Universe? Have you been given some wonderful gifts but since you were expecting more, you failed to even notice them? Or worse yet, responded with a "is that it?" mentality? Start feeling grateful for what you have right now. Maybe you're really struggling and don't feel that there's anything to be grateful for. Are you wearing clothes? Have you eaten today? Do you have a roof over your head? Running water? Excellent! Start there. Then keep building your list of things to be grateful for. Everyday add a few things to it. Pretty soon you'll start noticing more and more things to add to your list. More awesome things will be attracted into your reality, and it only gets better-it never stops.
I encourage you to start keeping track of things that you're grateful for on paper. Putting things on paper solidifies what we've got going on in our heads. Plus it's a handy list to have when you're having a shit day and you want to feel better. You can also use a physical reminder like a small stone that you carry in your pocket, or a special coin. When you touch the object, that's your cue to find something to say "thank you" for. Take it up a notch and do a gratitude rant when you're stuck in traffic or waiting in a seemingly never-ending line up at the grocery store.
Don't fall into the trap of waiting around until you get that ONE THING you've been craving before you start feeling grateful. Once you start doing that , you'll find yourself in a state of constant wanting…which translates into neediness (which is a total turn off). The point is to start right now and find something-anything to say "thank you" for.