Most of us can agree that our world isn’t exactly the friendliest environment to be at times. We’ve got famine, terrorism, murder…I could go on, but you get the idea. While one individual may not be able to wipe that all out, we can each do our part to make our own, cozy little corner of the Universe a better place to be.
It all starts with you. Just you. Right now. You don’t have to wait until the stars are perfectly aligned, until you’ve had time to relax after a tough day, or until the kids are in bed. If you could see how valuable you are, how loved you are, and the amazing things you’re capable of RIGHT NOW….well, quite frankly you’d be unstoppable. You could change your life and the lives of others. Discovering your self-worth and truly loving yourself sets the wheels in motion to create more love. When you’re in that lovey dovey space it radiates from you and people can’t help but catch it. It spreads like wild fire, or chicken pox, or gossip….point is it spreads. You could have a global impact! You, my dear friend, could change the freakin’ world.
Let me give you a few easy steps to get started. Yes, these may seem simple, but humour me and try looking at things on a grander scale. Think of tiny ripples created by tossing a pebble in a lake, the butterfly effect, or the importance of one grain of sand on a beach (sure it may just be one teeny tiny piece, but the beach had to start somewhere). The thing to keep in mind is that YOU MATTER! The seemingly small things you do on a regular basis can have a huge impact on those around you. Okay, let’s get to it.
Step 1: Smile
That’s right. Simple. Easy. Smiling by itself changes your physiology to create a happier, healthier you. Why not take it up a notch and smile at other people. Crazy idea right? Try it. Smile at strangers while waiting at cross walk, at the stressed out girl working at a busy coffee shop (more on this later), smile at the snooty sales person at the shoe store. Make it quick and genuine (you don’t want to linger too long and have people think you’re creepy). You never know what kind of impact you have on others. Your smile could turn someone’s day around for the better. Sounds cheezy I know, but it’s true. Have you ever had a crappy day and had a stranger genuinely smile at you? Feels pretty good doesn’t it?
Step 2: Say Something
This can be a warm” hello”, “how’s it going?”, or “have a great day”. Just like the smiling thing, talking to strangers connects us and makes us realize we’re all in this crazy little thing called life together. Your kind words can transform, inspire, and motivate other people. It only takes a few seconds to leave an impression. For example, I worked at a coffee shop once upon a time. It was insanely busy, and although I had been a patron of the shop before I worked there, I had no idea what it was like for the staff on the other side of the counter. I was having trouble keeping up with the never-ending line of customers, trying to take orders, fill orders, and pay attention to the drive through conversations coming from the wretched head set I had to wear. Since I was new I found it all rather overwhelming and on one particular day I was ready to scream and/or walk off the job. Then this magical being appeared. Like an angel….without the wings and in need of a caffeine fix. She must have noticed my snazzy “I’m in training” button I wore on my shirt, along with the frazzled vibe I was giving off because she gave me the sweetest smile and simply said “you must be new here but you’re doing a great job-it’ll get better.” That’s all it took to bring me back from my frantic, stressed out place and put things in perspective. I immediately felt more calm, and grounded. Was it a life-altering conversation? Nope. But it got me through the rest of my shift in a more positive state and made my day a heck of a lot better. Sharing a friendly hello with a stranger can not only brighten their day, it can also lead to an actual conversation, which could lead to a new friendship, relationship, or business opportunity. It’s all about connecting with each other, even briefly and reminding ourselves why we were really put on this planet.
Step 3: Grow a Love Bubble
What the hell is a love bubble and why do you want to grow one? A love bubble (I’m working on a cooler name for this…honest), is the invisible orb your body glows with when you’re in “the zone”. It can be when you’re experiencing gratitude, when you’re in the midst of your favourite activity, or when you’re just feeling the love in general. Although it can’t be seen by most people it can certainly be felt. It’s like a magnet that draws other people towards you. To grow your own bubble, just practice feeling love. Think of your spouse, your pet, or a warm fuzzy memory. You’ll know the feeling when it happens. You’ll feel your heart expand, and chances are you’ll smile. Picture a glowing orb around you. It doesn’t matter what colour, just visualize this field radiating from you. Now as you breathe in, imagine attracting a whole bunch of love from the Universe. You can picture it flowing like a stream, or a laser beam directly into your heart, or from above your head. As you breathe out, visualize the orb around you getting bigger. People often won’t even know what they’re experiencing, but it will resonate with something deep inside them. Their state may change from being stressed or angry to being at peace. It may change from being depressed to being able to see the light at the end of the tunnel. This simple act of feeling love can have a profound effect on others, and you don’t even have to say a word.
The whole point of these exercises is to experience feeling love and passing it along. You don’t have to be “in love” with somebody else to do this. Find the beauty in everyday things around you that you take for granted. Take a second look at the trees in the park, or the architecture of a breath taking building. It can be the smell of fresh roasted coffee, or the mischievous look on a puppy’s face. Seek out the extraordinary in your everyday life to find things to be grateful for. Once you get the feeling, start spreading it around. It’s contagious, and the world desperately needs more of it.
If you’ve done any of the above exercises, congratulations! You have just made the world a better place! Now, take a breather and let that really sink in, then get back out there and do it all over again. And again. Do it as often as you can. Pretty soon you won’t even have to think about it. It will just become who you are. That my friend is what modern magic is all about. Simple changes that can dramatically alter your reality and transform the world around you for the better.