Let’s just face it. Your problems are never going to go away.
Your current ones likely will, and everything will be smooth sailing for a while, but they’ll be back. Or a whole new set of problems will surface just when you think you’ve got everything figured out. You can’t go through this life without problems…or challenges, or hurdles, or whatever other word you want to use to describe them.
But just like everything else in your life, your problems are there for a reason. They show up so you can be exposed to a different way of looking at things. To challenge the way you’re currently thinking about something. Mostly, problems show up as lessons we need to learn in order to step into a higher vibration. That’s why the same ones always seem to plague us. The same problems keep showing up until we’re able to grow deeper as a person and be able to overcome them. They force us to take a look at our beliefs, and challenge us to alter the way we’re currently thinking and “doing life”.
Our problems can keep us up at night, cause us to spend countless hours worrying about how to fix them, and rob us of the joy we’re here on earth to experience.
We feel the need to work on them, understand them, and talk about them with anyone who will listen. We think that the way to rid ourselves of our problems is to analyze the shit out of them and focus on fixing them until they disappear.
Wrong. So wrong.
Stop focusing on your problems.
What we focus on, and direct our attention to expands and grows. Want bigger problems? Think about them all day. Worry about what’s going to happen if you don’t solve them. Talk about them to your friends until they start avoiding your calls. Then you’ll have to find new friends. Great. Another problem.
Focus instead on your potential.
Focus on who you would be if you didn’t have your current problems. What would that person be doing with their time? What would they be creating? How would they be showing up in their business? How would they be feeling? And then be that person. Fake it if you have to at first. As soon as you take one tiny step and start acting as-if you are that person, you’re no longer faking it anyway. That IS you. You’re just growing more into being that person.
When you start to focus on what’s possible and on your potential, you’re thinking and acting as the higher vibe version of you. The version of you who’s doing what they’re meant to be doing in the world, helping others, and making a ginormous positive impact. You start showing up in the world differently. You can’t do that and be the person you’re meant to be (your true, magnificent self) if you’re spending all day worrying about your current problems.
Notice how I didn’t say avoid your problems. You can’t do the ‘stick your head in the sand like an ostrich and hope they disappear’ thing. Deal with your shit. When problems arise, take responsibility for them, decide what you’re going to do about it, and then do it. This doesn’t mean that the issue is going to disappear overnight. What it does mean is that once you decide what you need to do to deal with the problem, you can do that (for however long it takes) and get on with the rest of your life.
Let’s take credit card debt for example.
Option 1: You get your bill in the mail and freak out over how much you’ve spent. You beat yourself up because you’ve been living beyond your means and you’re irresponsible with money. You think back to the time before you got into debt and replay all the things you could have done differently to avoid getting yourself into such a mess. When you hang out with friends you tell them about how stressed you are because you’ve maxed out your credit card and can’t even afford to go to the movies with them. So you go home, and sulk a bit because you have no money, only a giant balance to pay off, and by the time you do pay it off, you’ll be in a retirement home.
Option 2: You get your bill in the mail, and make the minimum payment or more if you’re able to. If you can’t do that, you call the card company to make other payment arrangements. Maybe you’re in so deep you need to talk to a credit counsellor. If so, you pick up the phone and make an appointment. You deal with it.
Then you get on with your life. You focus on your potential. You create a new product or service to sell. You offer a flash-sale on your current products. You get a side-job for 6 months if you need to. You focus on creating other ways to help people. You might also have to make some changes to your social life like skipping dining out with friends, but going out for coffee with them instead.
Worrying and focusing on the problem is only going to keep you in the low vibration that brought on that problem to begin with. Chances are worrying doesn’t feel very good either. If you’re constantly in that state, you’re blocking the flow of Universal energy that that will give you the creative ideas you need to overcome the issue you’re having.
When you make a decision to deal with your problem, and then focus your energy on the potential that you have as the creator of your reality, you’re putting yourself into a space of expansion. It’s in that expansive space-where you’re focused on possibilities- that magic happens. That’s the place where you open yourself up to receiving the ideas you need in order to solve your problem, and evolve deeper into being who you’re meant to be.
What you focus on expands.
Focus on your potential and surround yourself with possibilities.