They say the key to happiness is being able to enjoy the present moment. The spiritual gurus and mediation experts tell us that all we really have is the moment we’re currently experiencing, and if we don’t live in the moment, and be present, we’re missing out.
I get that. It makes sense.
But what if what’s going on around you in the present moment isn’t what you want to be experiencing? What if the present moment sucks?
You have a few options.
1. Go back and relive the moments from the past where you could have made different decisions that would have created a better “now”. You can replay scenarios and imagine what COULD have happened if only you’d made a different move. Then you can let your mind create a whole new story (the one based on you making a different decision in the past). In this new story, everything works out perfectly. You said just the right thing at the right time to the right person and your present moment is….well, it’s down right blissful. I let my mind suck me into this trap sometimes. But guess what? IT’S A TRAP!!! We’re smart people. We KNOW that we can’t change what’s happened to create a different “now”. No matter how many times we play the “what if…, if only….I could have..” game, it won’t change our current circumstances. What it will do though, is make you feel like crap. Knowing that you could have made different (better) choices, and that you DIDN’T…..uughhh….not a good feeling.
2. Avoid what’s going on around you right now, and escape to the future. Yaaay!! The wonderful, magical future where everything’s worked out to your advantage!! The sun’s always shining, birds are singing, and your hair looks fucking amazing. Every. Single. Day. I love the future. It’s filled with the people I want to be around, and all the experiences I want to have are happening. It’s like heaven. There’s just one teeny problem with this. It’s not real (yet). And that can lead to some major frustration if we live only in our future fantasy world. We get all excited and pumped up, and then we take a look around at what’s happening in our current life. Depending on what’s going on in your life….that can be pretty depressing. Being stuck in the vibration of frustration and depression? NOT a fun place to be.
3. Learn from the past, trust in the future, and enjoy the moment. Ahhh…the middle road….BINGO! Option three keeps us right here in the present moment and makes it bearable even when it seems like everything is going to shit. In this place, we can ask ourselves better questions and plan for a different future. Instead of lingering in the past and replaying moments that have passed, we can learn from our previous decisions and take a look at where they’ve brought us. We can ask ourselves if we’ve been repeating patterns, and why? We can reflect on the past without getting swallowed up in it. Then we can decide what we want to change, and make plans to do things differently to create the future we want. I’m a huge fan of future visioning. You daydream about what you want to have happen in your life, and get a good idea of what that feels like (the vibration of it), and then hold onto that vibration for as long as you can. The trick is to start acting out that future RIGHT NOW. In the present moment. (it’s not about living in a dream world and avoiding what’s going on around you).
Everything happens for a reason. The good, the bad, and whatever’s in between. There are going to be times when it seems like the Big U is testing you (or hates you), and moments that leave you shaking your head saying “What the fuck just happened??!! Why is this happening?! Get me off this ride!!!”.
But that’s really all part of the fun isn’t it?
Imagine how mind-numbing and boring life would be if we didn’t have those moments that sucked.
It’s often those moments that teach us what we really need. When we can sit in the present moment and observe what’s going on….when we can see what brought us here…and then when we can see how we’d prefer things to be….that’s a magical place.
I’ll leave you with a quote from Kung Fu Panda…..
“You are too concerned about what was and what will be. There is a saying: yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, but today is a gift. That is why it is called the present.”