So, you’ve put in the time and done the work to ensure that your vibrations are up, and you’re living in the vortex as much as possible. You know that’s when the magic happens…when you feel good, when you’re smiling, happy, and see the world as a the playful, responsive Universe it is. You know Gandhi had it right when he said to be the change you want to see in the world. You know like attracts like, and thoughts become things. You know in order to manifest like a champ, you need to be a magnet for what you want, and if you want good things, you have to put out good vibes.
But then you have to step outside your happy little home and interact with the world. Okay…this is fun…you’re smiling at strangers and they smile back-yes! You’re extra nice to the waitress who seems kinda bitchy, and she softens up a bit and admits that she’s exhausted because she’s working a double shift-look at you spreading some light and love! Good job! That guy who cut you off in traffic? You didn’t freak out, you kept your cool, and decided to believe he did it accidentally.
You my friend, have this living in the vortex thing nailed down. Go you!
But what happens when you have to deal with “them”? You know who I mean. That person (or people) you have to interact with on a regular basis. The people who drive you fucking nuts. No matter how high you feel, after 5 minutes in their presence you feel like they’ve sucked the life out of you. Bastards.
The obvious solution is to avoid the people who make you feel like crap.
If that’s not possible, here are 3 ways to stay positive in the presence of naysayers, Debbie Downers, and meanies.
1.Put yourself in a bubble.
In order to protect yourself energetically, creating a bubble is my all time favourite way to keep unwanted energies from bringing me down. This can be done instantly by taking a few deep breaths and visualizing a bright white light coming from above (hello Source energy!!), and entering in through the top of your head. Let this light go straight down from your head to your heart and hold that light right there for a moment. Visualize this light growing larger and brighter as you take a few more deep breaths. Keep growing this light until it surrounds your entire body like a big bubble. Set an intention that nothing negative can enter into this bubble. It’s your safe, happy place dammit. When you come into contact with someone who tends to bring you down, imagine their negative energy bouncing off the outside of your bubble. It’s even better to make it fun and silly. You could see them shooting their icky energy out of a toy gun (pew! pew! pew!), and see it bouncing off and falling to the ground. Ha Ha! Nothing can get in your bubble.
2. See the big picture
Usually toxic people are just trying to deal with their stuff the best way they can. They probably don’t even realize what they’re doing. What’s going on their world that makes them act the way they do? Maybe it’s something obvious….they just lost their job, they’re going through a difficult divorce, or they’re suffering with ongoing physical pain, and they’re feeling like shit. They could be dealing with things that nobody knows about. There’s always more than meets the eye. Show them some compassion and send them lots of love. This is a good time to remember that once upon a time, even the most difficult people were once happy go-lucky little kids. Before life happened to them, they were a sweet, innocent, wee little babies. Try to see them as that little kid or baby, and love that version of them.
3. Focus on the positive
Find something…anything about the other person that you like, then tell them. Are they wearing a cool necklace? Does their hair look awesome? Work a compliment into the conversation, and change the mood of it. Sometimes Negative Nancy’s go off on rants and it’s like a broken record they play out of habit (it’s off their classic album “Woe is me, life sucks”). All you have to do is lift the needle, and put on some new music. (side note: I can’t believe I’m old enough to remember when music came on records….). Take action, and direct the conversation to something good…whether it’s something good in them, or just talking about what a beautiful day it is, switch the focus to something positive. It’s amazingly easy to completely change the course of a conversation just by injecting it with a bit of positivity.
No matter how difficult some people may seem to be around, remember that we’re all doing the best we can. We all process things differently, and cope with life’s not so awesome moments with the tools we have at the time. Yes, some people might seem like little balls of cranky negativity, but if you believe that we’re all connected and that we’re all one, that dark side you’re seeing in them also resides in you. None of us are immune to bad days, and chances are you’ve been the one infecting the world with your shitty mood at one time or another. Sorry, but it’s true. I know I’ve been there (ahem…oh sooo many times), and I know I’ll be there again-it happens. Keep living in the vortex and being that sparkly beacon of light that you are. When you’re faced with difficult people though, take it easy on them ( and yourself). We’re all in this together.
Early morning is my favourite time of day to be outside. It’s still dark, quiet, peaceful, and the birds are just beginning to wake up and start chirping. Anything can happen from this moment on. The day’s new, fresh, and I feel alive with excitement. This could be the best fucking day of my life. Seriously, it could. I have no idea what’s going to happen outside of my normal routine. It’s like in the movies where the main character is going about their business and then BOOM! Something epic happens that totally changes their life. I get high on that feeling every. single. day.
Things usually feel the most clear at this time of day too…like outside influences haven’t had a chance to interfere with my intuition. The air is normally crisp and clear, mirroring how my mind feels. Being outside in the fresh air helps sweep away any mental cobwebs, and helps my brain wake up. So does the caffeine coursing through my veins from the 3 cups of coffee I’ve had by then..but the air helps too.
Today however it was foggy. Really foggy. Like I couldn’t see 5 feet in front of me kind of foggy. At first I didn’t like it. There were a few minutes where I felt a slight fear rise up inside of me before my eyes had a chance to adjust to the darkness and the haze. I had nothing to be afraid of, but it was the fear of not being able to see everything in front of me. Ah, sneaky Mother Nature once again teaching me a lesson….she’s awesome like that.
This morning was a gentle reminder that we don’t always have to see the big picture, and know everything that’s going on. Just because you can’t see it, doesn’t mean it’s not there. Maybe you have a big dream that you’ve caught a glimpse of, and then the fog sets in. It seems like your dream disappeared, or it’s hidden from you. You may feel like you were on the right path and everything was laid out perfectly before you. Now you can barely see 2 feet ahead of you, and you’re unsure of your next steps. Your dream…your goal…now seems like something far off in the distance and you’re left roaming around trying to reach something you can’t even see clearly.
There are times when the best thing to do is to grab a flashlight and push forward, cutting through the fog with determination. Other times, the fog reminds us that it’s ok to feel a little lost. I don’t like feeling lost. Ever. I like to have a clear plan, and directions. I like to know the whole story and have steps and processes in place to get where I want to go.
This morning the fog taught me to rest in that unknowing. In that dark, misty place the fog felt like a comforting blanket. It’s in that place where we can open ourselves up to new possibilities that perhaps we were unaware of when the air was clear. Being open and receptive to things unseen could bring us greater things than we can imagine.
If you’re feeling a bit lost, and like you’re roaming around in the mist without a clear sense of direction, I encourage you to embrace it. Rest in that foggy place, knowing that what you need to see or know will be revealed to you at the perfect time. Your dream…your big vision…whatever it is that feels so far away from you is still there. Sometimes we just have to be patient while the fog lifts.